How to Bounce Back From Failure: 7 Smart Approaches to Consider
“Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom” George S. Patton
Does the fear of failure scare you badly that you are always conscious of undertaking a new challenge or venture into a new task? You are not alone; we have all failed one time or the other. And I can bet, failure sucks, no one likes to experience it.
No matter how smart you are, failure in life endeavours is unavoidable. You are permitted to fail but dwelling too much on it or giving it rooms to hinder your progress is a taboo. Every great man has failed one time or the other. They are tenacious and never gave up on their dream. They understood that failure is part of life experiences and it’s a perfect tool to attain success.
Have you failed many times that you already lost count? Do you find yourself on the verge of giving up? Don’t! You have gone too far to quit. This article will awaken your spirit and ginger you to get up from your slumber. We have highlighted the 7 methods that will help you to Bounce back from failure;
- Analyze the reasons for your failure
- Don’t hype your failure
- Take responsibility for the past failures
- Show Gratitude
- Learn to Forgive Yourself
- Embrace new opportunities
- Commit to helping others.
Analyze the reasons for your failure
Everything happens for a purpose although many circumstances are beyond human control. When you encounter any form of Failure, the wise thing is to revisit the past, assess your action, highlight what you did wrong and check if there is a better way to do it. This will enable you to know what to avoid when you are set to start a new project.
However, while trying to assess the factors that contributed to the failure, you must be careful to avoid what we call analysis-paralysis. Don’t dwell too much on your fault that you become overwhelmed and depressed.
Don’t hype your failure
A lot of us are gurus when it comes to exaggerating our failure. We process the thoughts to believe that our failure is unpardonable and entirely out of this world. If you still do that, you are wrong! Let the story of great men who had impacted the world inspire you, people like Thomas Edison who failed thousand times in his attempt to invent the commercial electric bulb.
Ask yourself, how many times have you failed? Simply because you were unable to pass the examination, you lost a competitive game in the college, or you couldn’t prevent your marriage from crashing doesn’t qualify you to be an eternal failure. You can always pick yourself up, re-examine your life, and find a better way to handle the case. Remember what lies ahead of you are far more than what you have experienced since you were born.
Take responsibility for the past failures
It’s in human nature to find excuses whenever things do not turn out as expected, even when we are fully aware that no matter how genuine we may be, it will in no way affect the outcome. Until you learn to take responsibility, you will always be on the lookout for someone to shift the blames to, this is how our brain works: the moment you give excuse and gain empathy from people around you, your brain will shift the blame to the others and circumstances around you.
Then you become complacent. Rather than you seek for the solution, you will yield to self-justification which will prevent you from finding a way out. But when you take responsibility, your brain works tirelessly in finding a way to do it better at the next attempt. When it comes to taking responsibility, you have to be responsible for your actions, and at the same time your inaction.
It takes a strong mentality to be grateful when you just encountered a huge setback. When we are at our lowest ebb, we struggle to identify any positives around us; the failure completely overtakes our sense of reasoning and cloud our judgment.
You must cultivate the habit of looking intently at your life, no matter how bad you think your situation is, there will always be something to be thankful for. Now it does not have to be material wealth, think of those basic needs you enjoy freely; perfect health, a happy home, and a friendly relationship.
Have you ever imagine that some would give everything to be in your position? Set your mind away from your failure for a brief moment, look inwardly and list everything you are grateful for. That will help you to shift your attention away from negativity and focus on the brighter side of life.
Learn to Forgive Yourself
The primary reason why a lot of people wallow for too long in their failure is their inability to forgive themselves. Probably your failure would be avoidable if you have not made a specific decision. You may end up blaming yourself, “Only if I had studied harder,” “If only I had not accepted the offer.” It happens a lot to many of us.
As Barbara Corcoran once observed, “The difference between the real winners is how long they take to feel sorry for themselves. My winners say ‘hit me again.’” You can take an honest assessment of yourself and duly take responsibility for your mistakes, but as Barbara advised, say to your challenges, “hit me again.”
Please read our previous post on the art of mastering self-forgiveness/ motivation
You will find it helpful.
Embrace new opportunities
Imagine Thomas Edison given up at the 9,999th attempt, someone else would probably invent to the commercial bulb or even something better, but all the credits wouldn’t be going to Edison today. Some of us are too fast in giving up; we throw in the towel too quickly. The Fear of failing again impede us from exploring new opportunities.
If you are in this position, the best is to gear yourself up and face the task again. No children perfect walking at the first attempt; they keep falling and do not fail to rise again, be that child that fails to give up!
Commit to helping others
One of my favourite quotes is, “We rise by lifting others.” The period you encounter a fatal failure is the best time to invest in the life of others. Did you fail at winning a scholarship? Commit to being a guide to the younger folks hoping to secure one. Let them know your past mistakes and show them the ways to avoid it.
Remember, to teach is to learn twice. Don’t give up; greatness lies in you!
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