How to Bounce Back From Failure: 7 Smart Approach

How to Bounce Back From Failure: 7 Smart Approaches to Consider

“Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom” George S. Patton

Does the fear of failure scare you badly that you are always conscious of undertaking a new challenge or venture into a new task? You are not alone; we have all failed one time or the other. And I can bet, failure sucks, no one likes to experience it.

No matter how smart you are, failure in life endeavours is unavoidable. You are permitted to fail but dwelling too much on it or giving it rooms to hinder your progress is a taboo. Every great man has failed one time or the other. They are tenacious and never gave up on their dream. They understood that failure is part of life experiences and it’s a perfect tool to attain success.

Have you failed many times that you already lost count? Do you find yourself on the verge of giving up? Don’t! You have gone too far to quit. This article will awaken your spirit and ginger you to get up from your slumber. We have highlighted the 7 methods that will help you to Bounce back from failure;

  • Analyze the reasons for your failure
  • Don’t hype your failure
  • Take responsibility for the past failures
  • Show Gratitude
  • Learn to Forgive Yourself
  • Embrace new opportunities
  • Commit to helping others.

Analyze the reasons for your failure

 

Everything happens for a purpose although many circumstances are beyond human control. When you encounter any form of Failure, the wise thing is to revisit the past, assess your action, highlight what you did wrong and check if there is a better way to do it. This will enable you to know what to avoid when you are set to start a new project.

However, while trying to assess the factors that contributed to the failure, you must be careful to avoid what we call analysis-paralysis. Don’t dwell too much on your fault that you become overwhelmed and depressed.

Don’t hype your failure

A lot of us are gurus when it comes to exaggerating our failure. We process the thoughts to believe that our failure is unpardonable and entirely out of this world. If you still do that, you are wrong! Let the story of great men who had impacted the world inspire you, people like Thomas Edison who failed thousand times in his attempt to invent the commercial electric bulb.

Ask yourself, how many times have you failed? Simply because you were unable to pass the examination, you lost a competitive game in the college, or you couldn’t prevent your marriage from crashing doesn’t qualify you to be an eternal failure. You can always pick yourself up, re-examine your life, and find a better way to handle the case. Remember what lies ahead of you are far more than what you have experienced since you were born.

Take responsibility for the past failures

It’s in human nature to find excuses whenever things do not turn out as expected, even when we are fully aware that no matter how genuine we may be, it will in no way affect the outcome. Until you learn to take responsibility, you will always be on the lookout for someone to shift the blames to, this is how our brain works: the moment you give excuse and gain empathy from people around you, your brain will shift the blame to the others and circumstances around you.

Then you become complacent. Rather than you seek for the solution, you will yield to self-justification which will prevent you from finding a way out. But when you take responsibility, your brain works tirelessly in finding a way to do it better at the next attempt. When it comes to taking responsibility, you have to be responsible for your actions, and at the same time your inaction.

Show Gratitude

It takes a strong mentality to be grateful when you just encountered a huge setback. When we are at our lowest ebb, we struggle to identify any positives around us; the failure completely overtakes our sense of reasoning and cloud our judgment.

You must cultivate the habit of looking intently at your life, no matter how bad you think your situation is, there will always be something to be thankful for. Now it does not have to be material wealth, think of those basic needs you enjoy freely; perfect health, a happy home, and a friendly relationship.

Have you ever imagine that some would give everything to be in your position? Set your mind away from your failure for a brief moment, look inwardly and list everything you are grateful for. That will help you to shift your attention away from negativity and focus on the brighter side of life.

Learn to Forgive Yourself

The primary reason why a lot of people wallow for too long in their failure is their inability to forgive themselves. Probably your failure would be avoidable if you have not made a specific decision. You may end up blaming yourself, “Only if I had studied harder,” “If only I had not accepted the offer.” It happens a lot to many of us.

As Barbara Corcoran once observed, “The difference between the real winners is how long they take to feel sorry for themselves. My winners say ‘hit me again.’” You can take an honest assessment of yourself and duly take responsibility for your mistakes, but as Barbara advised, say to your challenges, “hit me again.”

Please read our previous post on the art of mastering self-forgiveness/ motivation

You will find it helpful.

Embrace new opportunities

Imagine Thomas Edison given up at the 9,999th attempt, someone else would probably invent to the commercial bulb or even something better, but all the credits wouldn’t be going to Edison today. Some of us are too fast in giving up; we throw in the towel too quickly. The Fear of failing again impede us from exploring new opportunities.

If you are in this position, the best is to gear yourself up and face the task again. No children perfect walking at the first attempt; they keep falling and do not fail to rise again, be that child that fails to give up!

Commit to helping others

One of my favourite quotes is, “We rise by lifting others.” The period you encounter a fatal failure is the best time to invest in the life of others. Did you fail at winning a scholarship? Commit to being a guide to the younger folks hoping to secure one. Let them know your past mistakes and show them the ways to avoid it.

Remember, to teach is to learn twice. Don’t give up; greatness lies in you!

Thank you for reading, we will love to hear from you, what’re your thoughts? Do you have any question? Feel free to use the comment box below and we will get back to you as soon as possible. Wish you the very best!

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6 thoughts on “How to Bounce Back From Failure: 7 Smart Approach

  1. Failure is bound to happen at one or another as it is a part of life. I think self forgiveness is the most hardest to deal with. I have no problem forgiving a person who’s wrong me at the moment, but something I did myself 20 years ago is hard to forget and forgive. 

    Gratitude is very important and thank you for bringing to the forefront of my mind. It’s something which I have learned over the years to never forsake on. Great article. 

    1. Forgiveness is a very important way of life and that means ourselves and others, if we do things that hurt us, the best way to look at it is, if we know better at the time we would have do better. Don’t you think so? find the positive side of it, like what lesson have I learn from it, does it make me a better person? 

      You will find out that you have become a better person because of those mistake or whatever it was, you can take solace from that and it will make it easier to forgive yourself. Life is never perfect you know, lets always look on the positive side, we can change what has happened we can only learn from it.

      If we are grateful for the life we have, we will forget whatever it is that we don’t have, is not easy but is the best way to live without regret.

      Thank you for your time. I wish you the very best!

  2. There is no way to avoid failure. As a matter of fact, you shouldn’t. You not only have to pick up the pieces but you also have to put them back together again. We fail to learn and learning is a very important thing to manage going about in our world. By its nature, failure measures success. The important thing is to reflect on what caused it and to remedy it with a comeback. That’s when you have to give it all you got! Reassessment is a must in this kind of situation as it will give you all the details that lead to failure but also the steps you missed to achieve success. Something like retracing your footsteps. Painful but necessary!

    1. Failure measures success, you are very right. Failing on something is not what stop people from achieving goals rather the act of giving up before the time, by not learning some vital lesson instead they focus on the negative side. Mindset is key on how we handle every circumstance that we face. 

      Is great to hear your view and you very right,failure is painful but necessary.

      Thanks for your time. All the best!

  3. Hi Abel,

    Your article is full of good values and I can say for sure that it was worth reading. I mean who has not experienced failure before? We all do, but sometimes they way we handle the failure alone can lead to something else. 

    You really  made some very good points here, that instead of doweling on the failure and allowing it to weigh us down to the extent that we are not even able to move on with life and other important activities, it is rather good to sit down and and d o some self assessment what really caused the failure in the first place and then we will be able to see how we can bounce back and and even handle future ones in a better way.

    In fact, i will never allow my failures to become so much a burden on me to the extent that I will give up in trying. Like you mentioned, even the most successful ones have failed before. But they did not allow that to kill their spirit, that is why they were able to get to where they are today.

    Thanks a lot for this useful information. I will do well to apply them.

    Stephen.

    1. Hi Stephen,

      Is nice to hear your point of view, you see no matter how perfect we try to do things in life. there will be a time that we will fall short of our expected outcome, so how we manage the situation will have a huge impact moving forward. As we know that failure is not falling down but refusing to get up when you have fallen. 

      Is great to know you found some interesting point in this article, knowledge is power and you know will make you rich. check out out some of my other article, i believe your will find some really interesting one. Thanks for your time. All the best!

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